According to Gary Chapman’s best-selling , people give and receive romantic love in five different ways: gifts, quality time, words of affirmation or compliments, acts of service, and physical touch.Couples with different love languages can still completely satisfy each other as long as they both communicate what makes them feel most loved.But speaking up about sexy desires is easier said than done.
These must-have conversations are important to maintaining a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship—and with our expert-approved strategies for approaching each, you’ll know exactly how to set the stage for intimate talks that will bring you even closer together and keep your sex life thriving. It’s important to discuss STI and HIV tests, and the date of your last test.
Lead the way by sharing your background first, says Berman.
Fear of ruffling your significant other’s feathers can cause you to clam up when it comes to talking honestly about sex.
But sweeping hard-to-tackle topics under the rug can make finding out the answers (and changing bedroom behavior) even harder.
Bring up down-and-dirty dislikes outside of the bedroom, says Berman, who adds that a lot of couples make the mistake of having them in the moment, and that creates a very vulnerable environment.
But rather than revealing the undesired behavior outright, frame the situation with a positive, says Andrea Syrtash, author of .Will you be friends with your exes on Facebook or Snapchat?Know what acts make your partner feel loved and appreciated, whether it’s as simple as holding hands or as steamy as sending sexy text messages, and make a point to do those things is tantamount to maintaining a satisfying sexual relationship, says Berman.“But model your actions after theirs and you’ll probably be on target.” It’s important to remember is that discussions about sex aren’t one and done.“Our wants and needs evolve and what does it for you while dating or during your first year of marriage may not hold true in ten years,” says Syrtash. Partners have to work together to find the frequency that makes them feel most fulfilled.